Gareth Brown

So a few friends and I had a discussion a couple of days ago about relationships and expectations thereof... It got me thinking...

Many girls stay in relationships for all the wrong reasons and what they ultimately want is marriage... That’s most girls goal in life, and it is something that has been like that for many years, even in these modern times where woman have equal opportunities as their male counterparts, their weakness is still trying to get married at all costs...  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying getting married is a bad thing, I just believe it should be done for the right reasons.

Women have tried all kinds of tricks in the book to get their guys to marry them, from the famous “trapping the guy with a baby” to giving the guy an ultimatum!  Here’s what I don’t get, why would you want to force someone to marry you, how do you then proudly walk down the aisle to your future husband knowing that he is only standing there ‘cause you forced him and it’s not what he really wants to do... How does that make you happy? And how does that make that day, the happiest day of your life?

I’m not a relationship expert, I’m simply giving advice based on my opinion and how I see things... Ladies don’t force a guy to marry you, he’ll marry you when he is ready, and if you’ve been with him for 5yrs or more and he still hasn’t married you, then get the picture and move on... he ain’t  gonna marry you! 

A guy knows in the first 6 months of a relationship that he wants to marry you... he might not be ready but trust me he knows.  If he is at a stage in his life where he is ready to take that big step, he will be making changes in his life and preparing for the day he pops that question.

I know a girl who has been in a relationship with a guy for 7yrs, living with him and has given the guy hints, ultimatums, you name it... but he is still not marrying her... and I don’t think he ever will, she is obviously not the girl he wants to spend the rest of his life with, it’s sad but true... and if he eventually does marry her, he’ll be settling.  How many times have you heard of people being in relationships for years and never getting married ‘cause the guy wasn’t ready and then they break-up...  and 6months later he is getting married to some other girl...  Then the Ex becomes bitter and depressed ‘cause she sacrificed 7rys of her life for this man etc etc... 

Get the picture, before you get to the bitter stage of your life ladies and move on, your guy is out there... there is a saying in Afrikaans “Elke pot het hom deksel”... meaning every pot has its own lid, so go out and get your lid... and don’t waste your time with a lid that doesn’t fit... ‘cause it’s never gonna fit.

Another girl I know gave her guy an ultimatum to marry her, but he gave her one condition that they sign a prenup... and now she won’t agree to signing a prenup, which I don’t understand, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself and your partner... I’m for a prenup 110%!  There are so many benefits to having a Prenuptial agreement, will lay them out to you in my next blog.  So her not wanting to sign a prenup makes me wonder why she wants to marry her guy then?  Is it purely for financial gain?  It certainly seems that way.

Ladies get married for the right reasons and please don’t force your guy into marriage... you’ll end up miserable anyway in the marriage... It’s not worth it!  Life is short, be happy and remember no-one is responsible for your happiness but you.

Later...